Dating Diva

SINGLE: not married

I am astounded at how many women fall for the “I’m separated” line repeatedly. Hullo??? *knocking on monitor* Is this thing on? Separated does not mean single, regardless of his lifestyle. All it means is two married people aren’t physically living together. If wifey wants to cause mischief, she still can and you’d caught in the crossfire. Or what if they decide to reconcile, where does that leave you? Here’s another news bulletin: Separated men often still have sex with their wives. It is you that is the other woman. That’s still his wife until the divorce decree is finalized.

Some guys will tell you they’re only separated until they have a reason to divorce. BS ALERT!! Any guy that wants freedom will sell his left testicle to get free. A man frees himself in order to be prepared properly for the right woman when she appears. This kind of prolonged completion means there’s a probablity he’s gifting you with unresolved feelings and emotional baggage. Lucky you! There ain’t nothing wrong with telling Mr. Man to holla at you when he’s free. It’s for your own self preservation. If he can’t understand or respect this decision, good chance you’ve dodged a bullet.

Ladies…lean closer…many men who’ve been separated a long time do it to keep their options open. This way he can live the single life without fully committing to another woman. Sure, he’ll get into a long term relationship but it won’t guarantee that he’ll divorce his wife for you. If he really wanted to be divorced, nothing would have stopped him long before you came along.

If he informs you he’s separated but still in the home with his wife for either the sake of the kids or the house…keep it moving. Again, anyone trying to get free won’t let those kinds of obstacles be deterrents to their personal liberation. And he can be a good father without having to live there. And their living together increases the likelihood they are still smashing hips. Old habits die hard and marital sex may be hard habit to relinquish, despite how much they may hate each other. Accessible sex in sexual comfort zone is a temptation difficult to avoid.

Do yourself a favor, deal with men who don’t have these kinds of left over legal, emotional, physical and psychological attachments of this extent.

Beware of the man who initiates new business before concluding his old business first.

Hipping you to the dating game, one post at a time,

DD

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