Dating Diva

Yesterday, I introduced women serial dating. I have to clarify some things before assumptions take place. Dating more than one man at a time doesn’t mean a woman should sleep with most or all or any of them. Dating and sexing aren’t synonymous. We’ve forgotten that dating is the art of getting to know someone. It’s a woman’s chance to gather intel to compare all her options. I know some women can’t wrap their minds around abstinence, partially in fear a man or men will lose interest if there aren’t humpations. It goes without saying there are men who’ll disappear into the dating witness protection program at the thought of no nookie. Look at this way, a bullet’s been dodged. It leaves room for the man or men truly interested and don’t need the lure of sex. I know the concept is unacceptable to some women. If it works for you, I can’t knock it. Undeniably, men want sex but we (sometimes) forget the journey can be as enjoyable and pleasurable as the destination.

Respectfully let the men know you have other interests so they can make an informed decision if they want to keep dating you or not. Because men understand (really OVERstand) the concept of serial dating, unless dude is looking for a wife right now, most men will stick around (that competitive nature of theirs). Secure men don’t mind knowing other men are attracted to you. Managing a rotation decreases your chances of appearing desperate; you have a life and not waiting on Prince Charming to save you. You aren’t choosing the first man available to you. Heavens, we spend more time comparison shopping for shoes than we do for men! Multi-dating offers intelligibility; you aren’t wrapped up–especially sexually–in one man, blinding yourself to his defects (for the sake of keeping him) that wreak havoc later on.

Last but most importantly, it’s ok dating a man for the sole purpose of having fun. Every man you date won’t be marriage or even relationship material. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy his company as long as you can for what its worth!

Ciao,

DD

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